For OB/GYN Patients
Many women prefer a female gynecologist or midwife
for a variety of reasons. You can find some reasons
1.) They feel very uncomfortable
having a male gynecologist treating them for intimate female
2.) They feel like female gynecologists
can understand some things better. For example, men never have
cramps, ovarian cysts, and other female health problems.
3.) They want to protect the
intimacy between their husbands or future husbands and themselves.
4.) They want their husband
to be the only man in the world to see them naked or access
certain parts of their body.
5.) Religious and moral reasons.
6.) They have been sexually
abused by a man in the past.
7.) Many women have never been
sexually abused by men in the past, but they have experienced
verbal harassment such as innuendo, catcalls, vulgar sexually
explicit language, having to see the pornographic magazines
that male coworkers at the workplace might bring, seeing sexually
explicit photographs and videos selling on the windows of porn
shops, and hearing some men talking about which women have good
bodies and sexual actions in details that could be done on them.
Men who don't want their wives to not go to a
male gynecologist are not crazy. They just love their wives
so much that they don't want another man to access and see the
private parts of their wives. Some women and their husbands
want to protect their intimacy and they feel like their intimacy
is violated when the women are treated by male gynecologists.
The bond between a husband and a wife is very special when they
never expose their private parts to another person of the opposite
There are a lot of wonderful female ob/gyns in
mixed practices, but you will need to find an all female ob/gyn
practice if you are going to have a baby and want to have the
assurance of having a female ob/gyn deliver your baby. All doctors
in a practice are on rotations. Women usually can have the assurance
they will be seen by a female ob/gyn in a mixed practice if
it is for routine tests or scheduled surgeries. You should always
be sure to ask the ob/gyn to keep the door closed when she is
doing an intimate procedure or examination on you. It would
be helpful if you could ask her to put a sign on the door that
says "Don't Disturb".
If you choose to have a home birth with a midwife,
you need to make sure that you have a backup plan with an all
female ob/gyn practice to deliver your baby at the hospital
in case there are some complications. Make it clear to your
midiwife that you don't want a male gynecologist. Midwives are
often much more sensitive to your needs for modesty than female
gynecologists. Many midwives even do breast examinations, pap
smears, gynecological examinations, etc. Check out reasons
to consider home birth with midwife. There are some birthing
centers in the US that are exclusively staffed by midwives.
Birthing center is an excellent choice for women with low risk
pregnancies who don't wish to give birth to their child at either
home or hospital. If you are interested in finding a midwife,
go to the Find a Midwife page.
We encourage pregnant women to create birth plans
about how they want the birthing experience to be. They need
to be sure that they include who they want to be present at
birth. You need to make sure you come up with a plan in case
you have to have a Cesarean Section. We recommend that you check
and Baby: Birth plan creator, Create
Your own Birth Plan Through BabyCenter, and Birth
Plan on American Pregnancy Association.
You need to be sure to discuss with your ob/gyn
about how you want an all female medical team for the birth.
Remember that the team may consist of the female ob/gyn doctor,
nurses, anesthesiologist, and scrubs. If you will have an epidural,
you will need an anesthesiologist to administer the epidural.
It is best if you could get a female anesthesiologist. If that
is not possible, you need to speak to the doctor and nurse and
request that they keep your private parts covered all of the
time while the anesthesiologist is present to protect your dignity
and modesty. If you must have a Cesarean Section, you will be
required to have an urinary catheter. You should ask that the
male anesthesiologist stay out of the room until you all have
done all of the prepping for surgery including the insertion
of the urinary catheter.
As for gynecological surgeries such as hysterectomy,
you need to talk to your ob/gyn and ask that you have an all
female ob/gyn team for the surgery. Remember that this team
will consist of surgeon, assistant, nurses, scrub, and an anesthesiologist.
Tell her you want the assurance that no men will walk in the
operating room during your surgery including maintenance workers
who may need to fix lights.
Check out the directory
that lists hospitals with at least one affiliated all female